Simple yet effective

In one of my previous posts under the category “cave man series”, in which I offer my perspective on the birth of new ideas to mankind and their effect on life and humanity, I once talked about the significance of the invention of the queue.

Its positives are obvious when many people are waiting to be served by someone to solve their problems, make their lives easier, or do them a favor. However, what If the situation is flipped and many people want to serve or do a good deed and they have to stay in queue? Does that sound logical? You’re the one who will be paying or sacrificing! I think these noble people shouldn’t have more of their time and effort wasted and a better solution should be introduced.

Now from another perspective when there is a queue for doing a good deed, it depends on how you would perceive it… returning to “the glass half full/half empty” dilemma. Reactions can range from “it could be that this society is really caring, supportive, friendly and have a high level of belonging”, to “that’s a hell of a persuasive campaign and damn good creative director plus a poor infrastructure”. I may think of it also as a gauge to a community’s moral… Is there usually a bigger queue on a restaurant or a charity? But it’s possible that they will be buying the food or material to the poor. We may quick to judge these things as negatives rather than taking our time to perceive them as positives. But who is doing who a favor? Is it you receiving money or taking one’s money? Is it taking his blood or donating it? Or is it giving his blood or getting rid of his blood?

When a natural disaster strikes, many people jump to help… and it’s chaos if all would do the same thing. This is where the role of leadership comes into play, and in turn a teaching system of how you could help organizing those who would want to donate when the number of donators exceeds the number of service agents.

I can see an automated or manual system to start rolling that shifts the attention to a number of people from donating their money/blood into donating their effort and time…so their focus would shift in helping managing the crowd to smoothen the process and making it efficient immediately.

To conclude, doing a good deed may have many countless shapes and you canstart by doing something simple yet effective, giving others the benefit of the doubt and be positive.

Cheers,

Dabboog 

Edited by: AFM

Guilty As Charged

In my previous blog post, I talked about how passwords could range from meaningless and easy combinations, to connected and thoughtful words that hold subconscious value to your life…then stopped at a question, “what if your password is your name?”

People usually love themselves but is there anyone in the world who doesn’t? I’m sure there are many things that could be done to contribute to loving yourself. But, there might be gauges that reflect this statement much bolder than others, such as hanging your picture and accreditation on the wall, speaking about yourself continuously and enjoying it , working out and constantly checking the mirror, etc.

There has to be a difference between liking yourself and loving yourself obsessively. A balance should be struck to succeed in crossing the roped bridge. The question is what’s right and wrong? Let me rephrase… is there a right or wrong in the first place? You could be demoting yourself constantly or speak out and express your greatest achievements by treating yourself the best sushi in town for example. Sometimes people say that they love another person more than they love themselves! But isn’t love in the first place all about caring, giving and sacrifice? The issue in love is that it requires two players… so how can we differentiate between us and ourselves in order for us to love ourselves? Let me try to explain you a way how to do the differentiation, inspired by discovery channel mind twist programs because once your conscious enough to understand that you exist (and your mind is aware of yourself existence),… you will be able to differentiate between you and yourself. Imagine through this screen you’re reading in: suddenly, a blurred CCTV window pops up and you can see yourself on it, reading my post. Now there are two persons; the first one is “you”… the one watching the cctv screen… and there is another person… on the screen reading the post … yourself.

Moving forward, let’s start the trial…Do you love this person? His/her personality? Ideas and thoughts? How he/she is treating his/her family, friends, spouse/husband and kids? Is he/she trying hard to achieve something, acting smart and avoiding the same mistakes? And the list can go on…

After a hard squeeze, I discovered the formula of loving yourself efficiently, to assure a long-lasting and healthy relationship. As all relationship counseling books give attention to buying gifts for your spouse, reminding her of your love and spicing up your relationship; I think that you should love yourself in such way that you have to remind yourself that you love yourself… by pushing yourself into doing what’s best for yourself in the long run and reward yourself when achieving significant milestones. So first love yourself by planning and acting to achieve things in the future, and then love yourself now by rewarding “you” through achieving predetermined goals… not the other way!

Going back to the concept of you and yourself divided , I have a theory that the situations changes constantly, between we are 2 persons and 1 without even knowing. However, it shines best in contradictions.

To give you an example, you and yourself are united, when you’re discussing something that will affect your current state, such as eating, reading, sleeping and having fun. However, you disconnect in contradictions, when you’re thinking of now versus. the future,,, as you would be pushing yourself for long term goals and dreams, while yourself contradicts and wants to take shortcuts, lazy actions to get the fast rewards instead!

So when contradictions come in place, this is when it really shows weather you really love yourself or are pretending…I guess this is where tough love comes in handy. Another issue you should pay attention to is contradictions, you’re having the upper hand, as if you’re the prosecutor. While yourself is the lawyer who is trying to convince you to lay low.

The scary thing that I may think of are only couple of situations where you and yourself would be switching rolls… as on your midlife crises and deathbed. Yourself will not be that happy of what he/she hasn’t achieved or tried to do and will not be that easy to understand excuses and circumstances and will rule you guilty as charged!

In conclusion, imagine yourself as a baby who’s lollypop fell on the floor …. and he really wants it! But you know that now it’s dirty and infected … Overcome the nagging, crying and push yourself into doing the right thing and truly love yourself…first in the future: by not eating it and completing your chores , then now: by buying him an even sweeter candy to let him enjoy life as normal kids do as well.

Cheers

Dabboog

Edited by: AFM

Wrong Password

People have common passwords for most of their networks, banks, automatic doors and even their drawers. Phone numbers, favorite numbers, lucky numbers, a number you guessed for a random drawing or two which happened to work out in a span of 10 years and you still convince yourself that it’s a lucky number, your anniversary with your soul mate — there are many experiences in life people could associate their password with, which will evolve in time to the appropriate ‘sweet spot’ combination.

Let’s agree on one thing: whichever password combination you choose, the subject matter in question is either very special to you or you’ve intentionally chosen a predictable pattern for the sake of convenience (12345 or ASDF for example).
Now regarding the “special” password, let’s psychoanalyze some examples. If it’s your university ID, that should reflect an enjoyable experience during that time of your life. Your first home number as a password means that you enjoy spending time with your family and love staying home. Your lover’s name as a password obviously implies you’re hopelessly romantic who values companionship, loyalty and a marital-like relationship.

One day, much to your own surprise, that special ATM password turned out to be wrong. Is that just memory loss because the subject matter of your password wasn’t that special in the first place? Or has your association to it been shaken through the course of time? Either way, would you keep that original password if you remember it or move on to a new one? As per protocol, important portals ask you to revisit your password every now and then for security reasons. Shouldn’t we also revisit our latest priorities and claim them as new passwords, or remain loyal to our first one and add an extra character or 2 at the end?

I think that learning new passwords not only challenges your brain to memorize them, but also further stimulates your deep thoughts when it comes to the original reasoning behind the combination. If by any chance this theory becomes scientifically-proven in the future, then we should make use of our passwords as lessons engraved deep in our minds, instead of depending on the lifeless ‘12345’ pattern.

In conclusion, when you stop getting a wrong password, it’s time to move forward and create a new password that’s challenging enough to push your mind to further heights via psychoanalysis.

But… what if your password is your own name?

To be continued…

 Dabboog

Edited by AFM

My Radio Interview

Dears

This post is slightly different.. I’ll cheat and consider this as a post 🙂

My first radio interview in the saudi local show “Saudi portrate” in the saudi english radio channel

My thanks goes to the host &

AFM for his significant contribution in shaping and editing my thoughts English as always 😉

The Toilet

When you wake up in the middle of the night and desire sight, turning on the lights might be a good idea. When you’re bored, switching on your TV will lift up your spirits. When you’ve surfed your last webpage on the net, clicking a social media link to look into other people’s activities provides even more entertainment.

Let’s investigate the problem and its solution from a bird’s-eye view; when you are missing something, you immediately try to gain it back by to changing your situation from worse to better, sometimes only by clicking… right?
However, it’s not as simple as it seems. Look at it this way; buttons are clear shortcuts to solutions…containing specific physical and mental steps to achieve required results. In addition, you would definitely feel awkward when the light is not that bright or the music is not that high, since you had already envisioned the perfect solution beforehand as you focused your energy towards this button and finally reached your nirvana.

On the other hand, while your actions are limited to just moving a finger, a whole lot more happens in the dark. Many people before you have already pressed lots of buttons—figuratively—to condense this complex mechanism into a single button press, thereby making it simpler to achieve your goal.
Thus, we can deduct that not all buttons are the same! There are easy, normal, and hard ones, all of which depend on the amount mental and physical effort needed to make complicated switches as seamless as possible to the user. That’s why I salute the inventors of the toilet flush each time I take a dump. It’s amazing how such a simple click or pull gets rid of our worst, smelliest byproduct on a minimum of twice a day!

It’s a good thing that humans are always needy, greedy and hard to satisfy… that’s why they’re always looking ahead for solutions, constantly thinking of pressing buttons. But unfortunately, the harder ones are often the furthest away from you finger’s reach, causing you to quickly lose interest in simplifying the mechanism into a domino effect of one switch.

Be honest with yourself and let’s be proactive! List small problems that you face on daily basis…I’m sure you’ll figure out the layout of these complicated buttons once you put your mind into it. Either you might have never thought about pressing them, or you may have already gotten the notion and know where they lay but never bothered to care!

In conclusion, start fixing small bulbs that would later encourage you to look for much harder buttons to press, affecting your life tremendously in the process…like a chandelier lighting up the whole ballroom!

And to conclude the conclusion, look for small, irritating, problems that pop up constantly…then just start clicking away.

Cheers,

Dabboog,

Edited by: AFM

The end!

When you’re facing the inevitable, you can either live in denial or predict the expected consequences…but either road you take, why should you be depressed about it? If you know that it’s a dead end, would you feel devastated after walking all the way and really finding out that it’s a dead end? You shouldn’t be; and that’s life!

Despite knowing the length of a film beforehand, it’s so weird even that we feel sad and crave for more once it ends. So what really happens here? Are we too attached? Or are we just living the moment?
As we all know, life and death encompass just about everything…so in that sense, aren’t movies supposed to make you ‘live the moment’ at first, and then towards the end ‘kill’ your attachments out of authenticity? Think about it; if films didn’t go through this cycle, you wouldn’t be feeling sorry as the credits start rolling. In retrospect, I honor all good movies that have bad endings… because instead of yearning for more when it comes good endings , bad ones will make you regret the time that you’ve spent watching due to lack of overall satisfaction, in turn… not wasting your time thinking about it afterwards. You might even start avoiding certain movies because of one bad ending.

In summary, movies are meant to entertain when you’re in the theater, but once you’re outside heading towards the restroom they shouldn’t consume your thoughts. Sadly, most movies today require a rehabilitation period due to their tendency to end during a climax. I guess “the end” makes it easier for directors to literally end it whenever they want. You know what I’m talking about; the clueless ones which makes you debate whether he was dead or alive…whether she was good or bad…or better yet, whether it was all just a dream. Imagine movies being long sleeping sessions with your psychiatrist; he has to install positive and entertaining messages then gently wakes you up to reality!
Perhaps our problem stems from strong attachment. As the saying goes, you never know what you’ve got until it’s gone, right? Here’s what I like to say to counter this; dying prepared is way better than dying unconscious.

Cheers
Dabboog

Edited by: AFM

 

We Are All DJs

You may find yourself acting differently with close friends by preferring not to speak about other factions in life such as: family, co-workers soul-mate, etc. It may even extend to not speaking about your own personal experiences or true feelings. So do such people have more than one personality? or  some lack important attribute of humanitiy such as feelings ? Is it considered hypocrisy when one is honest among a certain group of people yet cold among another? Are we called deceivers if we speak our heart out with someone while building walls around yourself with others?  

As I pondered on the matter, I realized that the environment and the type of people around you play crucial roles. It’s almost impossible to be yourself 24/7. Think about it; not even an infant  acts the same if he/she was among unknown people in contrast to the familiarity of family. In my opinion, the only person who beats the environment at all times and stays HIMSELF is the insane, who loves to win all the time…Compare this case to sane people, who intentionally lose the fight against the environment in order to keep a specific image, class or respect among others.

After extensive research , the first result in Google, I found that the definition of a personality is the combination of emotional, attitudinal and behavioral response patterns of an individual. Consider yourself a DJ who holds these 3 instruments in your mixer. As the job suggests, you freely mix them around to produce YOU at any particular time, and the results are always tested best during the first moments of anger-inducing situations.

To recap and rephrase, all individuals have these three response mechanisms, but freely control and balance the amount of each one depending on who’s sitting in front of you. At the end of the day, all three have to be fulfilled, or else you will face the consequences of major breakdowns or internal explosions to fulfill YOU all of a sudden un expectedly…like an insane DJ with a broken mixer that has all its attributes fixed at 1 point, leading to overexposed screechy noises.

A final piece of advice: try to be around people who turn up your mixers on high.

Cheers

Dabboog

AFM editing